The taboo and why we need to talk about it

“ALL HUMAN BEINGS—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny.” -The Family: A Proclamation to the World

Some of the most important points that I want to share and talk about today are that we need to learn about sex before we get married and be able to teach our children correct teachings about sex.

One of the most beautiful and meaningful aspects of your life will begin with your spouse when you become sexually intimate with them. I don’t know about you, but for me, the topic of sex was kind of a taboo or awkward to talk about even with my parents growing up. But, by becoming more educated about sexual intimacy and the differences between male and female it will really help the those that are about to get married on their honeymoon and their marriage be a wonderful learning experience as a couple.

For those that about to get married, as some married people that you trust about books that they have used to learn more about sexuality. Books usually have the best information about learning about sex. I emphasize asking people you trust, because I got on this topic with some people that I worked with and one lady suggested a book and said that it was amazing! I bought it and realized pretty quick that it was way too detailed and made me feel embarrassed… So, ask those you trust and then look up reviews on the book as well!

Woman are different than men (I wrote about that in an earlier post). Men are able to get aroused a lot quicker than women do. It takes a woman a little longer to be able to hit their orgasm than men do. Why did God create us so differently?

I think that He created us differently so that we can realize how special and beautiful this gift is from Him. If sexual intimacy was always wanted at the same time by both spouses, and they both got satisfied in the same way at the same time each time they had it, it would become common. Because we are so different it takes communication between the spouses, cooperation and learning about each other and our own self. It takes patience and kindness to talk about such a sacred aspect for your lives.

From there, children are going to be born. One of the most important things to teach your children about is how special and sacred their bodies are. One of the ways you can do that is by how you treat your spouse. We need to remember that the schools will not teach everything that children need to know about sexual intimacy and may even teach things that aren’t necessarily true about sex. There are many times that you, as a parent, need to talk to your children about their bodies and sexual intimacy.

On lds.org there is a manual called, “A Parent’s Guide,” and it is amazing! It goes through many scenarios and directions on what you need to say to your children when situations come up. It goes through specific ages that you need to teach your children about their sexuality. I was very impressed with that manual, but of course why wouldn’t I be? It was made by the church!

It’s incredible how having a knowledge about the Plan of Salvation really changes how we act and treat our bodies. I’m confident that as we learn more about the spiritual aspects about our bodies and the importance of sexual intimacy in our marriages that as couples we will strengthened and grow together to protect our families from Satan’s lies and temptations. We will also be able to teach our children correct doctrine about our individual worth and the importance of sexual purity because if we don't, the world will. If we speak kindly and openly with our children about their gender and sexual intimacy in the safety in our home, then they will feel comfortable to come and talk with us when they see pornography and see things on TV. What a blessing it is that knowledge and preparation early in life about sexuality can protect and prevent from hurt in the future in our families.